If you’re interested in an even 10, I’d recommend SENSITIVE.
It’s often laid out as the critique, “You’re too sensitive.” But I think people forget the operative word is sense. I’d prefer to have more, not less sense. It also reveals more about the critic than the person receiving the criticism. “You’re too sensitive” often means, “Your reaction is a pain in my as and I’d like to make that your problem instead.”
Totally! Thank you. It’s also the word “too.” We all are sensate. Some of us have the microphone turned up a little high. It’s good for art, empathy, nuance, but can wear you down too, cause wasted motion, be exhausting for self and others. But still, any sentence with “too x” needs to be finished with “for y” “too sensitive…for what?”
Can’t just leave it at too sensitive. That implies a universal criteria that the person is privy to, which is presumptuous.
“Too sensitive for me to navigate a conversation with” at least makes more sense. Maybe it’s a fact, but it doesn’t put all the culpability on one person. Maybe THEY are not sensitive enough. Language is so often an ad populum in disguise. It doesn’t need to be. The key is to express feelings, without judgement: “I feel that your level of sensitivity is tiring me out” fine, I’ll allow that. It’s honest and valid.
“You’re too sensitive” are fighting words if you ask me.
If you’re interested in an even 10, I’d recommend SENSITIVE.
It’s often laid out as the critique, “You’re too sensitive.” But I think people forget the operative word is sense. I’d prefer to have more, not less sense. It also reveals more about the critic than the person receiving the criticism. “You’re too sensitive” often means, “Your reaction is a pain in my as and I’d like to make that your problem instead.”
Also, I like the list as is.
Totally! Thank you. It’s also the word “too.” We all are sensate. Some of us have the microphone turned up a little high. It’s good for art, empathy, nuance, but can wear you down too, cause wasted motion, be exhausting for self and others. But still, any sentence with “too x” needs to be finished with “for y” “too sensitive…for what?”
Can’t just leave it at too sensitive. That implies a universal criteria that the person is privy to, which is presumptuous.
“Too sensitive for me to navigate a conversation with” at least makes more sense. Maybe it’s a fact, but it doesn’t put all the culpability on one person. Maybe THEY are not sensitive enough. Language is so often an ad populum in disguise. It doesn’t need to be. The key is to express feelings, without judgement: “I feel that your level of sensitivity is tiring me out” fine, I’ll allow that. It’s honest and valid.
“You’re too sensitive” are fighting words if you ask me.
10 is “disappointed.” “I'm so disappointed in you, Alma.”
Clapback: Manage your expectations better in future, and don't assume that how you want me to be is how I am.
Love it!